This is neither easy to write nor easy to accept. Before reading further you need to understand that this text are only my thoughts and no common knowledge or common value. Because that is exactly the point where this problem begins. It is nearly impossible in our modern world to not be influenced by our surrounding world our the people around us. With other people to reflect there are voices coming that are asking “Am I enough”. Am I to fat, to ugly, to stupid to boring, to normal, to weird. The questions are endless but the ideal is so far away. You are not alone with those questions and every human has these. Even the once that you think are perfect.
Doubts are nothing bad in the beginning. They help you to question yourself and to improve yourself but what happens when you have to many doubts or doubts that arise because you try to chase an ideal that not really exists. It is going to make you sick. More and more doubts are gathering and they will make it unable to see what you have and not what you maybe need. Why should be something you see in a distorted and fake reality control how you feel and how you life. If you want to change yourself and it is not reaching a sick level my opinion is that you should go ahead. A little change is not bad, it helps you not to stagnate and to improve your life. Do you want to lose weight to have a healthier life go on, but if you want to change your face or body to impress other people you probably shouldn’t do it. You should only do what you want yourself.
But lets look at the whole problem from a different perspective. What if you change, what if you become somebody that only exists to impress, what if you change your behavior to fit better in a certain ,from the modern world looked at as “cool”, group? Is it worth to become someone that you don’t are just to fit in. We define our self, our personality and behavior around values that are important for us. Values that we have collected through experiencing and education. All those values define what we are, how we behave and what we stand for. So is it in your personal interest to change those values or to betray them just to fit in better or to make someone like you more. I don’t think so. In the end yourself are the person that you need to stand up to in the end. It is nether easy nor healthy to change the way you behave and how you show yourself, when it is so far away from the way you want your self to be.
In the end I can only say so much that you should try it out yourself. Try to change yourself but nether forget what you really are. Most of all you are the person that needs to live with you. Change and evolve, try out and fail, but keep and eye on your values, because this is what defines you and makes you special.